Hi guys. Thanks for stopping by my blog and showing an interest in all things me. This is my first blog post so I thought it would be a good idea to share a few things about me that only friends and family would generally know, hopefully this will give you a little bit more of a clue what I’m like.
As I sat down to write a list of things about me I actually realised just how hard that is. I tried to make myself sound interesting and not seem like a giant loser from the valleys but it turns out I obviously am (haha), because it was alot harder than I thought it would be. So here are some things about me that you might not know if you were to meet me just once, seeing as though I’d really like you to come here more than once I thought I’d be more revealing than I would normally on a first meeting. So grab a cuppa and find out a little more all about me.
No one tells you how hard being a Mum actually is. No one tells you about ‘Mum guilt’. We all get it, well at least I know I do. ‘Mum guilt’ is that shitty feeling you get just after you’ve snapped at one of your kids because they just asked you (for the 6000th time) for another packet of crisps. You snapped because you are so tired from having zero hours sleep last night, because your kid just doesn’t seem to grasp that it’s not acceptable to play Pepper Pig weebles at 3am. Or your letting Disney Junior do some parenting on full blast while you hide in the kitchen pretending to be busy just so you can drink a cup of coffee while it’s still hot. The WORST one of all is when you start comparing yourself to other ‘perfect’ Instagram Mums with their ‘perfect’ Mum-bun and their ‘prefect’ flat lay shots. Here’s some advice……DON’T DO THAT!!
I’ve come to an understanding with myself in the last year or so, that no one I repeat NO ONE is ‘perfect’. Being knackered, surviving on coffee and dry shampoo is part of being a Mum and we are all just doing the best we can. None of us are the perfect Mum. I’ve decided to become my own version of prefect and that to me means happy kids. Happy kids, Happy Mum. When I’m happy I thrive at being a Mum and it’s taken me a long time to understand that.
I’ve been all kinds of Mother. Teenage Mother | Mother in a bad relationship | Single Mother | Good Mother | Not so good Mother | Married Mother | Mum to boys | Mum to a girl | Working Mother | Benefit Mother | Sad Mother | Happy Mother | Lonely Mother | Autism Mother | the list goes on and on…
Being a Mother is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever done and probably the most important thing I will ever do, but I love it. Most days they drive me crazy but every day I love them with every part of me and it’s definitely not anyone else’s version of perfect but my own. So let’s start telling each other. If your a Mother with other Mum friends tell them how great they are. Tell her she’s fucking perfect for her kids and that’s the best perfect there is. We have to stick together, one big PERFECT Motherhood squad.
There I said it, I AM A HOARDER.
We live in a shoebox sized house, the five of us are all squeezed into this teeny tiny little house and I keep things. Lots of things. I must get it from my Grandad because he was a huge hoarder. Every so often I have a massive clearout to make more room and then within a few weeks I’m stock piling again. Not sure what’s wrong with me maybe I have a condition, i know I’m doing it and I know when I buying it I have no room but there it is …on my shelf.
Like books for example, do I really need to keep a book that I’ve already read about 10 years ago and will probably never read again? No. Especially when I can probably just got to the local charity shop and buy it again for 10p if I actually needed it later. Which takes me very nicely onto my next secret fact…..
Charity Shop Queen
I am addicted to charity shops. I love to search for treasures in among all the piles of junk that people have dumped there too hastily. I think it’s a fair estimate to say at least 95% of my wardrobe is from a charity shop or second hand from Ebay. I get this buzz if I can get something really cheap, like if I get a whole outfit for under £5.00 I am literally busting to get home and tell my Husband who has absolutely no interest at all (haha). So I am sure that you will see a charity shop haul blog post in the future.
An average non-muggle from middle earth, in a galaxy far far away
Yep, you’ve guessed it. I am a fantasy literature geek. I absolutely love all things Harry Potter, The Hobbit/LOTR and Star Wars (other fantasy literature works are also available). I mean I can’t get enough of reading them or watching them. I love creative writing and a huge dream of mine is to have some published works, massive influences of mine include J K Rowling and J R R Tolkien among others so I have read their works alot. I always have this thing I say that my husband laughs at, I say if you claim to be a Harry Potter fan because you watched the films then we can’t be friends (haha). Star Wars well that is definitely my Dad, he loved the original trilogy as a teenager and ‘forced’ (see what I did there) it upon me as a child. I’ve been hooked ever since. There’s magic in my DNA.
Don’t worry though I won’t be continually trying to get you all to join some sci-fi cult I promise, for now.
Yes I am a slimmer. I started Slimming World in May 2015 because I wasn’t happy with the way I looked. I was a little over weight at the time and didn’t like having my photo taken, I used to keep out of the shot and have no pics with my kids. So I made the choice to go to my local group and I haven’t regret it for one minute since. Since May I have lost over a stone and a half, I’m finally comfortable in my own skin again and the food I eat makes me feel more with it. Which is great when you are running around after three kids and a husband every day, I need to be on top of my game. I’m sure that I will be doing some Slimming World blog posts and also some budgeting food posts too, I’ve found that since I’ve started my slimming journey that my kids eat better and I spend less. I am really dedicated when it comes to budgeting and mealtimes at home, so I would love to share that with everybody as well.
I am not a domestic goddess, not at all. I see all these amazing Mums on Instagram with all their shit together with the housework and at first I was like ‘Wow!’ but now I’m like blah blah blah….Behind the camera it’s probably as much of a shit hole as anyone else’s anyway!
I do not like it. I just don’t. Obviously I keep the house clean and tidy, the usual compulsory tasks like washing are always done but I hate it. Sorry, but I’m not even sorry. I am a big fan of the last minute blitz before a visitor arrives and you will never come to my house and see toys all neatly in a row. Shit is everywhere, that’s just how it works for me. My husband probably thought he was going to marry me and this crap would automatically fix itself but no, in sickness and in healthy baby and this is my sickness.
So that’s it. A few facts about me, I’m just an average person and these are some of the things about me that you would probably learn a few years into the friendship but I thought I’d lay some out to give you the chance to run away now (no that’s a joke. Please don’t run away). I hope you’ve enjoyed reading my first blog post, I’m hoping to upload as often as I can. Whether or not people will show the slightest interest is another thing entirely.
Natalie Abraham AKA Mostly Mummy